You simply require some confirmation that just exactly what you’re experiencing is valid. Your traumas, culture, as well as your mom have actually helped you imagine that the sheer joy you’re experiencing shouldn’t be trusted you can’t trust yourself because you can’t trust men, and. Everyone and everything outside of you points to your individual who happens to be making you feel therefore safe being a risk and a risk.
You had been previously in a relationship that is same-sex one in which by all records must be “safer” and non-threatening as it wasn’t with a guy. It didn’t sound like a extremely healthier relationship or one in which you felt the type of security and stability you’re experiencing now.
Let’s say you took away gender in this example? With that do you’re feeling safer?
The girl you had been with whenever you were more youthful had been a female, but she ended up being additionally an individual.